For the first time in my life I am actively interested in the rights of equality. I've never considered myself homophobic. I've had gay friends since I was a teen, worked with openly gay people all my life. But up to now I haven't thought much about equality, and I've not done anything about it. I've been apathetic as usual. Even realising that I wasn't as straight as I thought I was did nothing to get me off the fence post.
This quote, however, made my brain cells tick over. David Gaider's (from Bioware) response to a "straight, male gamer".
"And if there is any doubt why such an opinion might be met with hostility, it has to do with privilege. You can write it off as “political correctness” if you wish, but the truth is that privilege always lies with the majority. They’re so used to being catered to that they see the lack of catering as an imbalance. They don’t see anything wrong with having things set up to suit them, what’s everyone’s fuss all about? That’s the way it should be, any everyone else should be used to not getting what they want."
I've thought about this for some time. Maybe I'm as bad/worse than the homophobes. Saying nothing in support is just as bad as the opposing people. At least the haters are showing their true colours. What am I doing?
I write about gay men. I actively write about religious homophobia in Morning Report and Complete Faith. Nothing Ever Happens has my main character bodily and mentally scarred by his religious upbringing. More people read them than know me. Am I doing my part? Am I doing enough?
I have read some within the community saying that straights (I'm not, but lets not split hairs) should keep their nose out. Sorry, I don't believe that now. You can be self-righteous about it, or you can understand that not all people of privilege are homophobes and that some want to add their voice to support yours. Not drown it. Just add to it.
I share my working life now with many gay, bi, and trans men and women. There are many with a world of pain inflicted on them by a society that likes the world just the way it is. I don't want to be part of that society any longer. The fence post is removed.